3 posts tagged “reflections”

***I always find myself falling for the guy that my friends disapprove of. How many times have I heard the line "you deserve someone better."
The thing is I've met "someone better" a long time ago, but "someone better" and I just didn't hit it off as more than friends. I guess you just can't force yourself to have feelings for someone no matter how great he/she is.
Isn't it ironic that I've known that someone better, but I believe he deserve someone else?

***Sometimes you try so hard for something to happen that you end up not going anywhere.
Isn't it annoying that simple things become your bane? Sometimes they can ruin the thing you worked really hard at and all your efforts just go down the drain...

I usually say that writing is my first love, but I should correct myself. Writing is my greatest love but dancing is my first love.

I used to dance a lot in elementary and high school. I like the P.E. classes that involves dancing whether it be folk dance, ballroom dancing or cheerdancing.

It's been a long time since I danced a whole choreographed number though. It's not that I stopped dancing because I got fed up with it. I just don't have the opportunity to.

I don't go to clubs and bars, so most of the dancing I do is dancing along the songs that friends sing in videokes and i need a beer though to work it out. I'm not as "not-so-shy" as some of my friends who can do it without the beer. Haha.

Just thought about it because I've been watching dance movies all afternoon and been following some of their moves and dancing to the tunes they play. It's quite tiring especially when
I watched "Honey" because there isn't much dialogue and there's a bunch of music. But I enjoyed a lot. ^^;

I wish that someday I could find my permanent dance partner. Men are supposed to lead in a dance but I haven't found a guy with a routine I'd like to follow.

Other than that analogy that came out of no where, I'd like to add another thing that will come out of nowhere... it would be lovely to find someone who share my passions.

BUT until I find that one, I'll just enjoy dancing on my own. ^^;

Quotable Quote from Step Up:
"If you want to be with somebody who doesn't appreciate what a great thing he has that's 100 percent your business. But I just thought you're smart enough to know you deserve better."

My LSS is still "That's What You Get" by Paramore, hence the title of this post is a line from that song.

I'm not hurting as much as I've been since last, last Saturday, but I am seeing a lot of people who are hurting and/or confused. It's difficult to give advice to hurt and confused people when you yourself are just getting over the hurt and confusion. But let this piece be a comment/reply on all the blog posts about losing someone/being stupid because of loving someone/fighting for someone you love that I've read.

We do stupid things because of love, so people who don't want to do something stupid avoid love or at least avoid talking about love or their feelings so that they don't have to let other people know that they themselves had done foolish acts. We all have a story to tell. Just these past few days, I have read a lot about those stories. I don't know if I'll be happy because I am not alone or if I'll be sad because we're too many.

A friend of mine posted a collection of quotes about the ironies and pains of love. A lot of them are very true, even though you wish they weren't. I've collected a lot of sayings about that topic along my journey in life. I've even created some of my own...

Anyway, so here is more verbal diarrhea on my thoughts on this topic... This is for people who lost someone they love or have unrequited love...

First, as I've said to Nats, just because you love someone, it doesn't mean you have to be with them... And he's reply to me that I will share to all of you and I recommend as well, (evil smile) "totoong hindi kailangang kayo o mahal ka rin niya para mahalin ang isang tao... basta kapag nalilito ka na at hindi mo na alam, iinom mo na lang ng... BEER." Sometimes it may call for a San Mig Light and for heavier issues, STRONG ICE. Hehe...

Anyway, kidding aside...

As I've said before, I hate the phrase "you deserve someone better" even if it's very, very, very true. You won't be able to see the worth of that phrase when you are in love with someone who doesn't deserve you because the point of loving anyway is giving love unconditionally. You don't require the person you love to be something in order for you to love him/her. You don't require that person to be someone who deserves you before you give your heart to him/her. I don't use the phrase "you deserve someone better" to my friends because I know what it feels when you hear it. It's just like "I told you so" which is a phrase that I know a lot of us, if not all, doesn't want to hear.

But as dreadful as "you deserve someone better" is to hear, we should be open to the fact that there really is someone out there, other than the person whom we love and had hurt us, that we can love and maybe even love us back. Yes, we can't chose someone we love, but it doesn't mean we cannot love again.

I love Lara Fabian's song "I Will Love Again" because it's true. As long as our heart is beating we can love again. As the song puts it, "even if it takes a life time, I will love again." Yes, it's difficult, really difficult, and it may take a long time but it can happen. We just have to be open.

You don't stop loving a person just because the person has stopped loving you or because he/she cannot love you in the way you want him/her to, but you'll be able to love someone else more. Feelings don't die (even if most people say they do) but they only fade or move into the back to give room for new feelings. The process takes time and hurts a lot, but you'll live through it. ^^;

So, as Ate C always tell us, "let go and let God".

Cheers to happiness! (we'll eventually get it ^^;)